Matriarchal Coxswain

I was born in a free country, a country proud of it’s national heritage, culture diversity and variety. Varied regions, worshiping entities, languages & dialects and views. In my limited lifetime, I can say that our country has been progressive so far for some and stable for some but on and all, it has been quite a journey. Now for instance, females have been new emerging market for many corporations and curiosity to understand them has grown by leaps and bound. A certain mythological creature till late 2000s, women were associated in their traditional avatars of being mothers, homemakers and wife. Very recently, they have come into limelight for occupying novice positions such as CEOs of conglomerates, digital influences, story tellers, STEM innovators and motivators. But if I have to compare the progress of men in last 2 decades, I am still stuck with Moon landing in 1969.

Men have typically demonstrated a very mediocre existence since the stone age. Their chores included hunting, fishing and roaming in groups (security). after ages down the evolutionary cycles, families were just happy to have birthed a male. His only job post opening his eyes was to loiter around and stick his nose in other’s business but loved by all. On the other hand, a girl child being born and your entire future planning begins. Father gets busy with financials and dealing with societal pressure, mothers get busy with passing down her skills to next generation and finally the girls are tested at every turn and judged by all.

A transformation of a girl into womanhood is not easy. she is tested in the way she talks, walks, cooks, cleans and has to take care of families and manage a society. basically, she is an MBA Graduate even before she appears for her Higher Secondary. She is nurtured in a way where everything in future is bleak…..’ Na jaane aage kya hoga waha? Bhagwaan bharose’ Boys to men are simple, no stress of learning 21 skills before you hit 16 and with security that the previous generations has amassed in terms of wealth would be eventually for his taking. Very recently, few issues have started coming up to the surface and therefore the word ‘Equality” is resonating in many circles.

In 21st Century, the condition remains where men still engage in bar brawls and women dreams to acquire leadership roles in organisations. The later has stood the tests of time and has emerged victorious is many ways. She surely knows how to rock a cradle and rule worlds. So kind request to all men out there, if we do not lift ourselves to their standards of walking a mile in ‘Prada’ stilettos and still balancing families and work, we would be so far thrown back in time that the only comparison of our gender would be with a potato.

I agree that men are also progressing and this post is not a comparison to begin with. This post in no way puts any gender of pedestal or remarks the other. However as a connoisseur for progress it’s high time when equality is observed with all the genders, unanimously instead of asking.

Inner Intervention is the Need of the Hour.

Sometimes you don’t have anything on your mind and sometimes you want every crap to be out. Sometimes you get carried away by something and others hardly pay attention. But most of the time things that sooth our souls and give us reason to be happy are just a thought of someone else’s picture. We struggle our asses everyday to look like that, be like that and finally to live like that and when we are tired we start to compromise on anything that is second best. Indulge in affairs that we aren’t and meet with our end.

We humans are flawed to the crescendo  of our heartbeat. If one has to ask a religious preacher or a future teller, “What shall be the reason of my death?” then I assume one needs to go NO far than his nose distance. You might wonder what and where is this blog post taking you, well people fasten up your seat belts and get ready for a roller coaster ride. We might dig a little deeper and have an inner Intervention.

Let’s roll it from the top. During the kids phase, the only life we enjoy is a high raised bench -‘ Kids climb up and jump down’, They do it again and again. Seeing one the rest of the pack follows. Now once they are tired they might hit a break but we still would give it another shot. At that point of time, the concept of LIFE revolves around two things – the high raised bench and how free spirited they are. Don’t get carried away with the innocent foolishness kids are up to.

As we age we are now in completely different phase. We believe living up like a Pop star/celebrity life is the ultimate life. People dream of the fun of  unending parties and “If it is on TV, then it must be true” syndrome. Well what about the high raised benches in past and the free spirit living. True that all jobs in world don’t make you own palaces but then you don’t need more than a meter or two land to sleep and refresh yourself for tomorrow.

This thinking has led many motivated youngsters to just be more and more Self Centered. All they think of is ‘I should be pretty, I should be the one with maximum friends, I should be the one with most money to splurge around and I should be the one to have maximum girls or boys to my disposal’.  Well this is a reason there are more than 20,000 people who everyday land up in Mumbai, Capital of Bollywood just to be the Next Big Thing. 

We now lack human values. The first thing when we spot an accident is not the idea to help the victim but to remove our phones and take a video to post online as this is going to upgrade the ‘cool’ status. We are more depressed now then our forefathers. Group Drinking, smoking, shop till you drop, casual relationships and getting high once or twice were not the labels used to describe our ancestors but have been created to fill the present generation in classification society.

Well you might call this BAD but trust me this is not bad. Infact this is opposite of Bad. This is really important. The key here is every individual is a ticking time bomb. This bomb is preserved till his actions do not over power his mind. Once that is done the actions turn into habits and habits turn into destructive behaviours not only of self but of others too. Well this is the key to exit. It’s your cue to understand that these things don’t just happen but I believe if there exist a higher power he makes everyone with a flaw and that flaw then ends the person.

Hence understand what is that BAD in you. Work on it, take guidance, talk to people around you, write it down, distract your mind from it and try not to let it overpower you. Rich and famous are even Gangsters and Dons but the end they receive by a single bullet to their head is still better than a tortured life you would like to lead. Say NO to other’s picture of perfection and create something that is YOU.